Clark

While building our AI matchmaker at LoveActually.ai, we ran into an unexpected engineering lesson.

Niceness in AI isn t free.

It s a tuning choice.

Hey PH

We re building LoveActually.ai, an AI matchmaker launching soon.

I wanted to share a technical dilemma we ran into and hear how other builders think about it.

Hey Product Hunt,

I m the maker behind LoveActually.ai. During our beta, we made a controversial product decision that split our team, and I want to hear your take.

Most AI companions (like ChatGPT or Pi) are RLHF-tuned to be supportive, polite, and agreeable. But in the dating world, we found that "politeness" was actually hurting our users. They didn't need a cheerleader; they needed a wake-up call.

So, we built Astute Kitty. We engineered its system prompt to prioritize "rational critique" over "emotional safety." It calls users out when their dating standards don't match their own profiles.